What to do about harassing and threatening calls?

Question

I am 20 years old and dated a guy for two years. For those two years I let him abuse me, physically, mentally, and verbally. This went on almost everyday. I found out he has sex with 4 of my friends behind my back and has been dating one. I finally left him for good. Now he has been calling my phone every single day since. On average at least two hundred calls a day. He leaves threatening voice mails and texts. He calls me horrible names and is threatening to kill me. He threatens to come to my house and harass my family and threatened to poison my dogs who are always playing in my backyard. I am so stressed and terrified. I would change my number but I sent over 30 resumes with this number to jobs. I have to keep it in order to hear back from them. This is taking a toll on me and preventing me from living my life. I feel it's time to get the law involved but I don't know what can be done to help me and what I need to do. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.

Answer 1

A number of ways to handle this. One, get an air horn or something very loud like a Screamin' Meanie. If obnoxiously loud sounds don't do the trick use your imagination.



You can answer with a pre-recorded message quoting the Bible. There's plenty of material there to inspire a break.



My final answer is to simply call the police and report him. Make the police fill out a report.



Criminal activity - which I'm sure you can see coming - usually acts like a snowball. Think of him as a school yard bully. What he needs is one person to stand face to face and knock a couple teeth out.



If you don't handle this properly harm may not visit you as a result. But it will visit someone else eventually, if not you.



Do yourself a favor. Do other women a favor. And report him immediately.



I'm certain with this level of harassment you can have a judge place a restraining order on him. At the very least it becomes a matter of public record so that the authorities are warned.



Another good tip: carry a weapon that you're comfortable with. Get the proper training. Be prepared to use it.

Answer 2

Threatening to kill you is a crime in California, I don't know about Illinois but I'm sure there's some similar provision they can use. It's obvious that the threats are being made with the intent to terrorize you, it's an easy felony charge if he specifically says that he's going to kill you and you have a recording of the messages.



Even if there's nothing criminal they can charge him with, it's pretty easy to get a civil restraining order. Once the order's in place, every phone call he makes to you is an arrestable offense. He'll get the message pretty quickly after DOC puts him in a cell with Bubba.



Whichever path you pick, good luck.

Answer 3

This threatening abusive behaviour has to be stopped and as long as you don't do something about it it will continue. This man is a menace. Contact the phone company first as they may be able to offer an intercept service at least as long as you need to keep the same number, prior to changing numbers later. Next, phone the police because this man is committing at least one criminal offence and should receive the proper punishment.

Answer 4

If he's threatening to kill you I recommend a restraining order.

Answer 5

Get yourself a loaded Glock. If he tries to hurt you, cap his head off. You got to stick up for yourself and stop relying on the po po.

Answer 6

file a police report and they will get a restraining order for you

Answer 7

yea it would be wise to call the cops, they can probably locate the call and arrest him, then get a restraining order.