Should I call the police on my brother?

Question

My brother is mildly to medium autistic and he has been abusive to me for years. He lives with me because our parents are dead and I am his designated payee for his disability.

Tonight just a few minutes ago, he got angry at me because I asked him to help clean the kitchen and he stomped over to me with his fist raised ready to punch me. When I cowered, he grabbed my hair and told me I was going to what HE said and then flung me away by the hair, nearly making me fall to the floor.

I just don't know what to do with him anymore. He's hurt me in the past when I threatened to call the police. I'm seriously scared he's going to end up killing me. I don't like the idea of calling the police because he IS autistic, but because he's also threatened to attack to police if I call them and I don't want the police using deadly force on him.

Answer 1

You don't know how much this question upsets me as a mother with two boys one autistic and getting bigger all the time and one older boy, my husband is already dead and my older boy will have to care for younger one.



I was going to say police until you said he'd attack police. Maybe you could try some mental health help lines of the kind you can contact about serious issues. Maybe it would be better for him to go into a mental health facility just for a little while until he calms down and gets to realise he is not entilted to be violent with you. Ugg mine just punched a massive hole in the wall that I don't know how to fix. But he can be reasoned with when in a good mood.

One thing you could do is tell him that you love him but that you need a little help around the house. Let him know you love him but that violence is not right and could lead to a bad future for him. Maybe if he understands that you really love him it could make things a bit better between you. Another person said that you can talk to family protective services and talk to a case worker I've never heard of that but that sounds good.

You could also ask for help at a Citizens Advice Bureau.



You could also go into the police station to have a full talk with him and tell them that you don't want him to get hurt and you fear any deadly force being used. The problem is that there are good cops who would be really helpful but also bad, useless cops so you'd need to get to talk to one of the good understanding ones but if you went into the police station and you had a cop that was being useless and had a bad attitude then you could just not tell them your location and try something else maybe.

Answer 2

Call the police !! ...This man is your brother , not a little child . He is responsible for himself , he is not your problem and he is capable to care for himself.. This really irritates me too because these people the autistics and aspergers ARE NOT HANDICAPPED , they are perfectly able to work and they have the system completely fooled like they are retarded or something and it is not the way it is . They simply are dif and like anyone dont want to work and they have found a way to beat the system which to me is the same as no it IS stealing that money they are given ... I don't like people like that.

Answer 3

Use a cattle prod on him.. He;ll learn who's boss.

Answer 4

I would seek help elsewhere first. Because of his condition police would be my last resort. It's important that you yourself seek help from a professional, someone who knows and understands autism to equip yourself with the skills and knowledge on how to deal with someone who is autistic. This may change your approach towards your brother and maybe his towards you (or not). Find out if he would be willing to talk to someone who can help him. If it gets to the point where you have to involve the police it is important that you explain the situation fully and how you feel in order to avoid them shooting him if they have to respond

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Take him to a psychiatric hospital

Answer 7

Do you own the place where yall are living? Are you his legal guardian? If you are not able to take care of him then you should not be taking care of him. If he's not able to live on his own there are places where he can go depending on his condition. But also remember this a lot of people who are autistic or have other mental issues end up homeless if they don't have any family willing to take care of them. You're in a real tough situation. Do what you think is best. I'd suggest maybe talking with a social worker and see what your options are.

Answer 8

yes, most definitely, he is dangerous.

Answer 9

He may be autistic, but he does not have the right to threaten or abuse you. Call the police. If he attacks them, then he will be taken away and you and the neighbors will be safe.

Answer 10

If you're female then yes. If not, handle business.

Answer 11

Are you female?



Talk to a county social worker.



You have a complicated problem.

You need some help.

Answer 12

Looks like he'll have to learn the hard way.

Answer 13

ofc that idiot shouldnt do that

Answer 14

It is sad to think about and do, but it may be time to have him put in a home for special needs or in an institution. Many people have to make that decision eventually. Maybe you can look for a support group online or in your community. Dont keep your life at risk. You only have one of those. Best of luck to you.

Answer 15

Get him locked up in a psychiatric facility. No one needs that kind of hassle.

Answer 16

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Answer 17

The best thing to do is to get him help, probably some anger management. It really sucks to have family sibling problems as I do and it's so hard to not want to call the police but if it gets more dangerous than what it is then I would call the police.

Answer 18

Well he may be living life in the vegetable Isle but he still holds as much authority over you as an other man, maybe you deserved the beating, did you burn his BLT toasted? Walk in front of the TV too much while he watched Veggie tales? Learn to vaccum during commercials, clean by your goddamn self, and keep your fat mouth shut, In conclusion, shut up, you are fat.

Answer 19

And , he does not care, stuff him, how long can you go living like that. You have no life under these circumstances. Ring the police, or next you will be dead.

Answer 20

It sounds to me that you cannot handle being his designated payee .You have to protect yourself and get him some help . You are not safe .

Answer 21

Dont let him harm u just cause hes your brother, the best u can do for both of you is to report him to the police so that they can move him to a mental institution until he learns to behave and not be violent, he flung you by the hair, that is nuts, that is insane,call the police.

Answer 22

Yea if you feel like it’s the right idea

Answer 23

How are u letting an autistic little dickhead beat you around you pussy you’re definitely american.

Answer 24

He is a danger to you and to law enforcement. If the police cannot help, call family protective services and talk to a case worker or an attorney. In the meantime, arm yourself and watch your back, a lock on your bedroom door for starters.