Question:
So, are the cops stalking me? Help!?
2014-01-08 20:45:15 UTC
Okay, there is a lot of details here.

It started during the Summer when I met a cop at a concert in my hometown. We had a conversation about police and power, and whether or not the personality seeks out the career or the career changes that person into the personality. I am studying to get my sociology degree in order to go to law school, the subject of the working personality of police officers has also interested me as I have also considered being a police officer. Nonetheless, I gave him my address, and told him to stop by (he was in uniform and I had a little too much to drink that night after ending a five year relationship that week, so I was being a little flirtatious). He jokingly said he would see me later. I also told him where I worked. The next day he was parked outside my house, but not having the liquid courage in me from the night before, I ignored the cruiser and went to my apartment.

The next couple of weeks I saw him here and there around my apartment. I have lived there for two years and have not seen the police activity that I saw and have recently been seeing.

I will add, because it seems relevant, I live in a relatively small town with quite a large drug problem. The "bad neighborhood" is further south than where I live. The police station is about two blocks from my work, so when I see them drive by I dismiss it because obviously it is inevitable that they are going to pass by. However, sometimes they drive by slow, or park in the vacant lot across the street, which strikes me as odd.

At first, I was seeing the cop I met at the concert quite frequently. He seemed to be around my apartment quiet a lot. Then I wouldn't see him at all for a couple of days. Then, I was in some trouble for being drunk in public and had a run in with another officer. He then started texting me, but that soon ended because he was a jerk.

After about two weeks of no texts from the second officer, I saw the first officer parked outside my apartment. He drove by about 4 times in a span of 10 minutes (I smoke out my window and noticed this). I figured out his name and called his work number to ask why he was following me, and asked him to stop because it was kind of creeping me out. I think that was my first mistake. He never replied and I never heard from him. I didn't really notice any police officers after that.

However, for the past 5 weeks or so, I keep seeing cops drive past my house regularly. EVERY TIME I leave for work, I see a cop. I feel like they know my schedule. I work at the same time everyday, and I have to catch city transit, and I ALWAYS see them at the exact same time. Because of the way their schedules work, I think it is more than one cop that is following me. I often go to a coffee shop around the corner from my house. When I first started going there, I didn't see any police activity. Now it seems whenever I am there, a police officer happens to come in for coffee or drive around the block about 5 times. Sometimes I see the same one (he was with the officer whom I was talking to at the concert); Sometimes, it is a different one. Since I was getting weird-ed out by the frequent visits by police to the coffee shop I frequented, I started going to the Public Library. Sure enough, I started seeing them drive by, and one time they even came into the library. I have honestly never seen so much police activity around my apartment or where I go. I told myself that I was just being paranoid because I'm really not a "bad" person, nor do I partake in any illegal activities. My life consists of work and school. My Aunt tried to tell me that they are intrigued by me.. I'm not so sure about that.

Anyways, I feel like I am loosing my mind.

Are they messing with me? Is this normal cop behavior? My mother told me that cops can get weird when it comes to intelligent, pretty woman. I don't mean to sound arrogant, but could that be it? Do they think I'm a badge bunny of some sorts? I'm a very analytical person and this is driving me bonkers. I just need to know if I am loosing my mind, or if they are messing with me.

TIA for your help! :)
Three answers:
Norman Boyle
2014-01-08 22:34:36 UTC
Trust your feelings. No point now on looking back on what you should or should not have done. The biggest turn off for the cops is the media (TV, Newspaper, etc.) but you probably don't want to go there yet. If it is really driving you bonkers go to the police station and talk to someone in charge and file a complaint (get his/her name & badge number). By your post it looks like you live in Canada. If these are local cops stalking you you may consider going to the Provincial Police if necessary. That might cool their jets real fast. Good luck!
2014-01-08 21:18:17 UTC
He probably is. Most cops have a chip on their shoulder, tons of freedom without accountability and way too much time on their hands (on the clock.) If he decides to stalk you there's little stopping him and his coworkers will help. This isn't uncommon police behavior. Most cops are just log stupid goons who get off on bullying people.
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2014-01-08 23:20:02 UTC
Cops are predators so stalking definitely seems in character for them. Probably the best thing to do is to document the behavior and start carrying a camera.


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