Would Like to drop rape charges...?

Question

In January I was raped by this guy I had met online, I know dumb decision. He showed up at my job around March trying to hookup again. I told him I was in a relationship and wanted nothing to do with him..he drove off and then later was trying to talk me into coming over to his house and I said no. I was trying to put everything behind me and let it be a life learned lesson but once he showed up at my job it scared me so I filed charges with the police. I did not get a rape kit so the only evidence they have is me. Its now June and I'm starting to forget details, I'm also in a happy relationship and 7 weeks pregnant. I just want to move on with my life and forget it now. The pretrial is in mid June...I know what happen to me and everything I said was true but I'm worried if I drop it he might try to say I falsely accused...what will happen if I decide to drop the charges/ what goes on at a pretrial?

Answer 1

just call the da's office and tell them you no longer wish to press charges and will not appear in court as a witness. ( you can blame it on being a Christian and god says you are supposed to forgive ). they will try as hard as they can to try to make you change your mind, but no matter what they say you can not get into trouble or anything.

Answer 2

you are able to drop statutory rape expenses however the state nonetheless has the appropriate to prosecute the criminal. If the offense got here approximately till now you the place sixteen, which i'm assuming through fact he's can charge, then you definately can not drop the fees now which you're older.

Answer 3

Since he raped you, he needs to be convicted. Forgiveness has nothing to do with being raped at all it is about closure.

If you do not stop this creep, he will rape again and again, till someone else says he raped me and how long and how many other women may that be.

Only 20% of Rapes are ever reported because of the stigma attached to it by others.

Answer 4

That is no Ionger for you to decide. You may let them know your feelings but its now out of your hands.

Take care of your Business now and then you will have the rest of your life to live in peace.

Answer 5

It sounds like you're worried that he's going to counter sue you on the grounds of defamation of character. Don't be worried. If it's true that he raped you, it's nice of you to drop the charges, but he really needs to think about what he did to you, and feel shame for it.



Dropping the charges is your prerogative at this point. Do not let yourself down. Do what feels right to you.

Answer 6

And women wonder why the conviction rate for rape is so low.

Answer 7

Just tell your story as truthfully as you can remember it and let the court make the decisions.

Answer 8

You can't drop the charges,



only the DA can do that.

Answer 9

you should discuss this with the DA handling your case, and the detectives